The Islamic weddings and their responsibilities

Prefer Sunnah over tradition;

Keep your wedding simple.

Marriage is a very important institution in Islam. The Holy Prophet (s.a.w) has said:

“When a man has married, he has completed one half of his religion”

He has further said:

“Marriage is my Sunnah (practice), those who do not follow my Sunnah (practice) are not from me”

Marriage in Islam

Marriage is one of the strongest relationships which Islam stresses, encourages and considers as one of the prophets’ practices.

Indeed, Islam attaches much importance to marriage rulings, etiquette and the spouses’ rights in such a way as to guarantee marital stability and permanence and create a successful family in which children are brought up enjoying psychological stability, observing devoutness and moral integrity, and displaying excellence in various aspects of life.

Marriage process in Islam according to Qur'an and Sunnah

Before marrying

•Selection of spouse

According Prophet (Peace be upon him) said:

“A person chooses his life partner due to four reasons. 1. Rank 2. Money 3. Beauty 4. Taqwa (Virtue). One should choose who is best in Taqwa (Virtue)”
[Sahih Hadith]

In order to get married the spouse selection should be based on basically religiousness in addition to this below, we are going to discuss some things that need to be considered while selecting a spouse.

✓The spouse should be pious with whom someone is getting married.

✓The spouse should be religious and more strengthen in the Deen.

✓One should have a good nature. He/she should be patient during difficulties that may arise in married life.

✓The marrying partners should be compatible with each other.

✓The Messenger of Allah Holy Prophet (SAW) has given great emphasis on taking into consideration a good family background when someone intends to get married.

✓Though a spouse should be piety and religious but with that one should also consider the physical and mental health.

✓There should be love, respect, care, honesty, mercy, confidentiality, and selflessness in marriage if someone wants to live a happy married life. 

May Almighty Allah guide us to the right and make us capable to act upon His commands and to follow the Sunnah of His beloved Prophet Muhammad (PBUH). Aameen!

The Wedding Ceremony (Nikaah)

•Components

1 – Consent: ‘Aishah(R) asked Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi was sallam) if women must be asked for their permission of marriage. Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi was sallam) replied, “Yes. ” She said, ‘The virgin is asked for her permission but she gets shy. Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi was sallam) said, “Her silence is her permission. ” (Bukhari and Muslim)

2 – The Wallee (Woman’s Guardian): Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi was sallam) said, “There is no nikaah except with a wallee. ” ( Ahmad , Abu Dawood, Tirmidhi)

3 – Two Witnesses: Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi was sallam) said, “There is no marriage except with a wallee and trustworthy witnesses. ” (Sahih- Bayhaqee) Also, “There is no marriage except with a wallee and two witnesses. ” (Sahih Al-Jaami’)

4 – The Mahr (Dowry): Allah says (what means): “And give to the women their dowry with a good heart, but if they out of their own good pleasure remit any part of it to you, take it and enjoy it without fear of any harm. ” (Al-Nisa4:4) The mahr can be of any amount, Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi was sallam) said, “Look for one even if it was an iron ring. ” (Bukhari and Muslim)

The woman is not obliged to give the man anything at the time of the wedding, as is done in some cultures.

Acts to be Avoided

We should be careful to not act as the disbelievers do regarding their mixing of men and women, wearing tuxedos and white wedding gowns, exchanging rings, kissing in public, etc. Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alayhi was sallam) said, “Whoever resembles a people is one of them. ” (Abu Dawood)

After marrying

How to live successful married life?

     ✓ Supporting One’s Wife
     ✓ Educating One’s Family
     ✓ The Wife Obeying Her Husband
     ✓ Kind Treatment To One’s Wife
     ✓ Take Guidance From Quran
     ✓ Care For Each Other
     ✓ Control The Anger
     ✓ Have Fun and Trust on them

May Allah strengthen the knot that keeps your hearts together and blesses two hearts with faith and love for each other! Happy wedding! May this marriage last as long as eternity and bring endless joy to everyone close to these beautiful souls. May Allah shower you two with everlasting peace and happiness! Aameen!!